Saturday, September 11, 2010

seriously now...


im a little concerned.

im super duper with happy events, pimping up parties and happy babies. things that makes my heart sing. but when it comes to a little sadder things in life, im not so good at dealing with it. other than giving hugs & hanging out with them, most of the time, i really don't know what to say to make people feel better. but i really don't want to be only a fair-weather friend. i have a brilliant friend whom i always go to when i have a toughie. i also want to be her - the dependable sensible one. the type that one can turn to when they're upset or disappointed...

i wonder what i can do to change that?

xx

9 comments:

  1. juz be there for a cuppa hot chocolate and big hugs! =)

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  2. I think you are too tough on yourself. Sometimes hugs, being a good listener and offering a shoulder to cry on is more than enough :)

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  3. Hmmm I don't think just because you doubt your own abilities with friends going through tough patches, it makes you less of a friend, sweetie.
    Different friends serve different areas of your life and just like you have your brilliant friend whom you always go to when you're going through the pits, I'm sure you are the brilliant friend your pals go to when they need a good ol' cheering up! I sure felt that way for that few hours with you. :)
    I think I'd gone through the whole denial, anger and depression parts with other reliable friends who could cope very well with me going through those stages. But now, I need the whole find-yilian's-groove-back-again positivity and I think you were perfect person to make me feel that way! You're such a happy, positive and "life's gonna be so great!" kinda girl that it was very, very infectious!
    You made a difference, girl. You did. :)

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  4. i try to do that but feels like i would do a better job at comforting if i had some wise words or insight to share. im just too shallow for those things! :(

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  5. wish that would change the world and make everything better.
    but it really is not enough sometimes...

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  6. thanks, hon! not that you need more on your plate to deal with..
    but you know? just felt like the positivity coupled with some excellent emotional coaching on the couch would make a lethal combination!! sprout some quote-worthy or wise instructions. or just something MORE than just hugs..
    im working on it tho! and you're welcomed to come running if you need more burst of sunshine. that i have heaploads of!!
    xx

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  7. why would u want to change yourself? n why would u belittle yourself too? i find that it's hard to be someone that i'm not.
    i am not very good with dealing in grief and death and other life-threatening situations. i try to be a helpful friend instead. i offer a helping hand whenever i can..

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  8. *shrug* just working on being a better friend i guess.. feel like im at a loss for words..
    but you're right, just be who i am! and do whatever i can. at least i make it up in enthusiasm..

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  9. Sometimes, just listening is good enough.

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